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All people have many facets to their personalities. Yet some people find themselves bound by certain skills sets they've developed over time. These skills are often very important in one area of their life, yet can be counter productive in another. This is a real problem for many men in today's society. I refer to these men as "one dimensional." They weren't born that way, they were conditioned to behave that way. Most people respond to favourable feedback in [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] predictable ways. Men are positively reinforced for exhibiting particular behaviours. The challenge comes when these habits collide with what women are looking for in a mate. Women want a broader expression of their husband's personality. Often this has been conditioned out of him and requires a resurrection process for him to regain buried and [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] discredited parts of his personality.
During the formative years, male talk is devoid of the subjects of raising children and marriage relationships. The adult male mould is still almost exclusively fashioned around a job or career. There is some real merit to this focus. If a couple has children, women are much more likely to be the ones who stay home with them. The man then becomes the primary bread winner.
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Once firmly established in the workforce, men are further conditioned in ways that are often destructive to a happy marriage. The marketplace is competitive. A competitive spirit is often necessary to do well. This is not the case in the home. Competition kills efforts to build a harmonious home.
One dimensional men get caught up in competing with their wives. It's us versus them. Winning becomes all that matters. They tell their wives that certain feelings are wrong. Some operate out of the belief that time is money, whether at home or work. They are unaware that with intimate relationships slow is fast, and fast is slow.
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Being only a good provider is not enough anymore. Men need a broader knowledge base in order to be good mates. This does not require becoming more feminine, just [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] more human. Emotions are not the sole [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] property of women. [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] All [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] feelings are in fact neutral.

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